Human beings like complaining about their miseries. But if you try to rid them of those miseries. They will fight you with all their might to ensure that their miseries are not taken away.
An employee will complain about his employer. A spouse will complain of his partner. A child will complain of his parents. But give them a simple solution. Quit that job, quit that relationship. Move out of your parents’ house and take care of your bills.
That’s when you’ll realize that we were not serious with our complaints. We will protest, throw kicks and blows if you attempt to drag us away from our problems.
You see, many times, we find ourselves in situations, because we actually want to be in those situations.
We work ourselves into our problems. And we do everything to ensure that our problems don’t go away. We get used to our problems and become attached to them. We form an identity around our problems and wallow in them.
There is something we gain from our misery. There is a reward for victimhood.
Many times, if you ask someone what he really wants, he will tell you that he wants things to remain the same, but he will use words that sound like he wants things to change.
“Now a certain man was there who had an infirmity thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there, and knew that he already had been in that condition a long time, He said to him, “Do you want to be made well?”
The sick man answered Him, “Sir, I have no man to put me into the pool when the water is stirred up; but while I am coming, another steps down before me.”
The truth is, we are mostly okay with the way things are, despite what we say.
There is some comfort in misery
Life is life
Fabio